My husband and I recently celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary – wow how time flies.
Although time has flown, there really has been a ton of growth and learning along the way; which has me thinking – if God has shown me this much in 6 years, I can’t imagine all that he has in store for the next 30+ years!
I would say the biggest learning experience has been – COMMUNICATION.
(Which for me, is still a work in progress – I’m sure by hubby would attest to that.)
We all hear that communication is key in any relationship but what exactly does communication mean? After all, it comes disguised in such a variety of ways.
Communication = the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.
Not only has my growing season been in the area of imparting my thoughts, opinions and information but more so, how I impart my thoughts, opinions, and information.
When my husband and I first met and were married, we were not believers and had no filter to our lives. I said what I felt even if it was hurtful, selfish or unnecessary – the purpose was to simply get my point across.
Since coming to know the Lord and his character and his expectations of me as a godly woman and wife, my actions are now molded to the truth of his word and my life – dramatically changed.
The Lord revealed that my communication skills, or lack thereof, was not based upon skills at all but rather, resulted from the condition of my heart. (Ouch!)
“A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.” (Luke 6:45 NLT)
This scripture took the blame from others and pointed it straight back to me! I could no longer use the excuse ‘I was right, he was wrong’ or ‘it was his fault’.
Working on developing good communication skills is only a part of the equation; it’s like cutting the weed above ground and never getting to the root.
We must get deep down to the root and cultivate our hearts, because everything flows from it.
So if you’re like me, whether it’s in a marriage relationship, friendship or maybe a family situation – work on getting to the root of the issue and let the Lord transform your heart.
As I said before, I am still a work in progress but I can say that many an argument has been saved and many unnecessary words were not spoken just by being obedient to the Lord and watching the the words that I speak and the way that I speak them.
“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.” (Psalms 19:14 NLT)
Stop & Reflect: How are the words that flow from your heart? Are they a gift to those who hear or are they demeaning or harsh? Having knowledge of what God’s word says about this is the first step in conditioning the heart; I’ve provided several scriptures to you but would encourage you to to study more on your own. May you be filled will the Holy Spirit and learn to walk in obedience.
For those of you married, are there any lessons that you can impart on a young (or old) Christian?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic, please share your heart in the comments below.